Death

How can we be present with someone facing death, including when words are difficult?

Facing death, our own or someone else's, can bring fear, love, anger, tenderness or feelings for which there are few words. There is room for all of this. A person approaching death need not reach peace, offer reassurance or find a final lesson for others.

Some conversations need someone willing to be present, listen and allow silence. Ask what matters to the person, including what they would rather not discuss. Practical wishes, care, relationships and unfinished matters may need attention at different times. Beliefs about death differ, and The Human Constitution leaves those questions open. Dignity means taking the person's preferences and need for support seriously, even where a question has no answer we can give.

A question to sit with (optional): What matters to the person now, and would they welcome conversation, quiet company or help with a practical wish?